I can totally sympathize with you wiggin, I’ve seen the same phenomena in other multiplayer games and MMO’s. People come and go, because they are less attached than others. Others leave because of nostalgia, the loss of friends and the community they’re used to.
I get what you’re saying, and I’m afraid there’s little people can do. You need to adjust a little to these changes, or take a break from the game, so you can return with fresh eyes later.
I do agree that the community has suffered from the immature players, I think it’s bettering. Several players and mods have shared their stance upon it and there will now be a crack down upon poor attitude, spam and trolling. I trust Microsoftt to kick some ass in the future!
Don’t fret, stick around and make some new friends!